COVID-19 AND MARRIAGES.

Any bubbly and loving couple no matter the nature of the relationship needs time.Time to grow from maybe friendship to something great. Despite the mushy feelings and pet names, the couples need space. Space from each other. A time out per see. Where one is allowed to do their own, to exist as an individual entity and not in two. Most modern-day relationships work on this premise. A typical relationship will be of a guy who works on the other side of town and a damsel who either stays at home or works in the CBD. This arrangement works because for the most part of the day, they are not in each other's space. In each other's space. There's time and space for each to breathe.

Communicate.

Then came COVID-19 and self-quarantine and social distancing campaigns became the norm. A huge percentage of companies urged remote working. Just like that, couples found each other at home all day. The bad habits, the fussing, and nagging became constant. Oh, and did I forget to mention the fact that there is zero effort to look good, no makeup or Calvin Klein perfume. Therapists urge couples to communicate. Every small detail should be put in words. You don’t like his snoring say it, Her ringtone is too loud, communicate. When he keeps leaving the refrigerator door ajar, say it. When she adds too much salt in food, son, spit it out.

Aside from the usual arguments, couples are faced with another challenge. “I’ve faced so far are the cases in which both spouses are looking at what’s going on with different lenses — one person thinks the sky is falling and the other thinks people are making a big deal about it,” said Weiner-Davis.”When people have different perspectives, they have different ideas of what needs to be done, and the only way to work around that is to communicate.”

I’m as single as a pringle but I have a couple of ideas that can aid in making it easier for couples during this trying time.

1. Create a routine.- The routine will help in the day to day running of the house. Who does what and at what time. Assign roles for each day: who cooks, who cleans, who answers the phone, and so on. This will hinder the tiny scuffles around the house as every chore will be covered.
2. This panicked state only further complicates your relationship with your partner. Instead of allowing yourself to be triggered, take a deep breath and focus on the little things, especially those you can appreciate with your spouse. The small and thoughtful things.
3. Never push for sex-First of all you won't get the virus if you have sex. Two sex will not act as a means of conflict resolution. Tensions are high and as a result, sex might be the last thing on one's mind. Don't push for it instead couples should try to ease into it as it would naturally occur.

I hope that these tricks will help and that I will see you on the other side once the pandemic is over.